Why do many people pretend that their relationships are fine even though sex is not fine (or even non-existent)? Based on a major study, it is clear that a lot of people allow this kind of problem to be the elephant in the room because they don’t know how to talk about it/don’t have an effective way to address that. Yet unfortunately, burying one’s head in the sand isn’t the solution and pretending everything is fine isn’t the answer.
Why do marriages have a high failure rate?
A divorce lawyer told me that marriages’ failure rate isn’t the same as the divorce rate because most couples that stay married are in highly stressful marriages - these marriages aren’t success stories, although these couples aren’t divorced. Further research shows that people have less sex than they tell others in order to look good, no matter if they are in relationships or not. Obviously, in theory, people pursue happiness through getting married, but in reality, love, sex and relationships aren’t as simple as what we see in Hollywood movies.
If you plan to have a long-term relationship in the future, please think about the above-mentioned facts – clearly, when something has such a high failure rate, you might consider paying for insurance, right? But how many people would buy insurance for their relationships by investing in their education in this regard?
What’s the quality of your sex life?
No, you don’t have to be married or in a relationship in order to have sex. Nevertheless, if you are keen to have a sex life, please remember that you don’t need to put up with low-quality sex because life is short & you only live once – high-quality sex does exist.
Probably you had sex education at school where teachers taught you how not to get pregnant, but sex education is so much more than how to use a condom. What’s more, pornography isn’t sex education, it’s entertainment; however, sadly, that’s exactly where the majority of people get their sex education from these days.
Do you even know what high quality sex is?
The sex portrayed in adult movies is primarily for entertainment and does not reflect real-life intimacy. If you're trying to mimic those actions, sounds, and movements as a performance, it's essential to understand that this doesn't equate to high-quality sex. What you see and find arousing in a visual context does not necessarily translate to your partner's experience. Remember, those actors are professionals, they're paid to perform, and their goal is to keep viewers engaged with their content. Treating your partner like a prop in a show merely turns your intimate moments into a circus act. Instead, consider focusing on developing genuine skills and connections for more fulfilling and meaningful experiences.
If you never had access to high-quality sex education, please don’t hesitate to contact me for a complimentary 15-minute call in which I’ll share my insights into your sex life with you honestly.