WOMEN TALKING ISN'T BANTER, IT'S MAGIC!

Conversations that heal us from the inside out.

• Why do women talk so much about their feelings?

• What’s actually happening in the body when women open up to each other?

• How can we better support the emotional needs of the women we love?

There’s a scene you’ve probably seen a hundred times:

A woman calls her friend after a hard day. She talks. She rants. She cries a little. She listens. She laughs. She jumps from one emotion to the next, and her friend listens maybe adds the occasional “yeah” or “I get it.”

And by the end of the conversation?

She just feels better.

To some, it might look like gossip or emotional drama. But here’s what’s actually happening: healing.

It’s not just gossip — it’s chemical

When women open up to other women they trust, their bodies shift into what I call our pleasure body. It’s not just about “getting it off their chest” it’s about getting it out of their head so they can finally relax.

Because when we feel heard, valued, and understood, our whole system resets. But when we’re holding it all in, we stay stuck in our to-do list brain anxious, disconnected, and numb.

Here’s what the science says:

Talking to someone who feels safe and emotionally present activates oxytocin the hormone linked to bonding and calm. At the same time, cortisol (the stress hormone) begins to drop. Heart rate slows. The nervous system softens. The vagus nerve lights up, and the body returns to balance.

This process is called co-regulation, and it’s especially powerful between women thanks to estrogen, which amplifies oxytocin’s effects.

In other words?

Deep chats between women don’t just feel good. They do good.

This is why women need each other

Too often, women feel guilty for “talking too much” or “being too emotional.” But those long voice notes, late-night chats, cups of tea, and car park debriefs?

They’re how women process the world.

They aren’t gossip.

They aren’t pointless.

They are nervous system medicine.

They help us feel seen, understood, and safe again often at a cellular level.

Here’s what I say:

This is why I always tell women find a good women’s circle in your local area. Bless yourself with the presence of women who will love you without even knowing you. It’s truly magical.

Final thoughts: Let’s change how we see emotional expression

Instead of telling women to “stop overthinking” or “toughen up,” we need to start recognising the power of emotional connection and how this contributes to being able to relax.

Venting isn’t weakness — it’s wiring.

It’s how women regulate, repair, and return to themselves.

And here’s the truth:

When we allow women the space to feel and speak freely, we’re not just supporting their emotional wellbeing we’re supporting their whole nervous system.

This is what healing looks like.

It starts in conversation.

Let’s not shut that down.

Let’s lean in.