Frequently Asked Questions

How long is a Bodywork session?

Typically 60-90 minutes for men. Allow 90-120 minute sessions for Bodywork for women. Why is it different? Woman bodies and nervous system are different, and relaxation and calm are imperative to receive, and time is essential to process.

What do I need to wear to a Bodywork session?

You can come as you are. If you are more comfortable fully clothed, this is perfectly fine. We will work around what you're comfortable with.

Is there any preparation to do before a Bodywork session?

It's best not to come with a full belly or if you're feeling unwell at all as this will distract from noticing sensations felt in the body.

What can I expect from a Bodywork session?

In an initial session, we set some super clear boundaries around you and me as the practitioner so that we both can feel safe. We will go through some questions to identify something in your life you wish to change or explore. And it is OK not to know what you want. Bodywork does not always require nudity or touch, and all sessions are co-created but client-led. After the session is complete, we will do the grounding/closing process. Bodywork is not a sexual service; the practitioner is fully dressed, and all sessions are one-way touch (the same as seeing your chiropractor or masseur).

What is a Somatic Sexologist?

Somatic Sexology (Touch Therapist/Bodyworker) is the meeting of somatics (focusing awareness through the body), with sexology (the scientific study of human sexuality). It is the merging of practices from time-tested traditions such as yoga, meditation and tantra, with cutting-edge research in neuroscience, psychology and somatic learning theory. Somatic sexology develops ‘embodiment’, which is a more profound presence, awareness and understanding of what is going on in your body and s*x. Embodiment releases body-mind restrictions that inhibit pleasure and allows space for more significant growth, choice and play. Touch Therapy /Bodywork: - The Lovers Touch Techniques; - Erotic Massage; - Ejaculation Training; - Masturbation Coaching; - Vulva Mapping - Healing/Childbirth, Education, Sensation; - Awakening Pleasure for Women; - Working through sexual trauma (in conjunction with regular EMDR/Counselling / Psychotherapy sessions). If you feel that you would like to explore something outside of what is listed, please do make contact so I can forward your enquiry onto a colleague.

Are you professionally trained?

As a Somatic S*x Educator, I am certified through The Institute of Somatic Sexology - we are trained, highly-skilled, well-rounded, ethical and dedicated to empowering clients in discovering their ability to explore and access s*x education as an adult.

This is at the forefront of somatic education through gentle touch, embodiment and curiosity to provide adult s*x education and growth.
We support clients in co-creating consent driven intentional practices. Modalities may involve breath, movement, sound, touch and mindful or heartful awareness. We bridge the divide between mind and body to get back in touch with physical sensations and emotions.

Clients learn to have a choice in how they feel, act, and react during intimacy and s*x, allowing them to realise and express their authentic needs, desires and boundaries. This is not a sexual service; the practitioner is fully dressed and all sessions are one-way touch only. The key is to educate and guide you to expand and widen your own capacity to investigate pleasure and eroticism.

Why learn through the body?

Sexuality is the pleasure felt in the body, and 'somatic' means 'in the body'. So, learning about your body is very useful. You can't just read a recipe and truly appreciate the flavour or taste. Learning through the body is extremely useful. Teaching somatically, we not only acknowledge the fundamental importance of the mind and body connection, but also utilise it in every aspect of your life. Advances in neuroscience in recent years show how the mind and body are in the constant process of influencing each other and provide evidence that supports the need for somatic practices in sexology, psychology, and other client-centred helping professions. This research contributes to what we are calling a somatic renaissance, so for those who are interested in this ground-breaking education, please know that it takes time. It's the subtle changes that make the most significant changes. Cast your mind back to school s*x education class - let's be honest: it was crap! Reading a recipe doesn't mean you've tasted the dish. Your body is the same; imagine as an adult inviting the felt sense into the learning space, tune in to how the body sends and receives information, and explore the diverse and unique ways our body learns. From here, you can grow and explore.

Who would see a Somatic Sexologist?

Often people reach out to somatic s*x educators from a place of great need or frustration. They have probably have tried everything else first. There might be a desperate sense that if they don't figure out how to be a better lover, they might lose them altogether or maybe it's stopping you from even entering into an intimate relationship. People are often looking for a way to be fixed. And most people are surprised to realise that you don't need fixing and that there's nothing wrong. With a better understanding of your body awareness, you can make changes. So, that means you are at the perfect place to start. You will be met with an open heart as you are, where you're at and we together will use unique techniques, modalities and embodiment practices, so your body can show you the way.

What is the difference between a medical/clinic treatment and a somatic s*x education approach?

~ Common Concerns ~ PE/ED Anorgasmia Low Desire Anhedonia Pelvic Pain S*x Addiction Porn Addiction PTSD Sexual Trauma Paraphilic Disorder Gender Dysphoria Relationship Issues Agist (Too old or too young) S*x and Disabilities

~ Standard Therapies and Medical Solutions ~ Pills Numbing Surgery Gender Binary Either or Choices Normalization Talk Therapy Diagnoses Experts ~ Somatic S*x Education Approach ~ Creating a safe environment by teaching boundaries Listening/Holding Space No fixing, advising or setting your straight Safe and wanted touch that is client-led Choice and voice empowerment Embodiment and felt sense practices Pleasure practices Sexual knowledge Anatomy education Community Individual learning zones Ethics and integrity Client focused

What is a S*x, Intimacy and Relationship Coach?

Most of us received poor s*x education at school which was more about avoiding creepy crawlies and pregnancies and absolutely nothing about pleasure, intimacy or connection. Our relationship education mainly comes from what we see our parents do, which can be heavily influenced by cultural, religious and their unresolved personal trauma as well. Then fumble through our first few relationships. In a world of swiping, tapping and scrolling life these days we're increasingly feeling disconnected, and often the emphasis in relationships can feel more like room-mates, a financially obligated or raising kids — intimacy only becomes a goal when the relationship already suffers and is in trouble. Private Intimacy / S*x / Relationship Coaching: - Mis-matched libidos; - Changing relationship habits; - Working with conflicts around s*x and intimacy; - Stuck in the friendzone; - Dating profiles and confidence tips; - Working with sexual issues (dysfunctions); - People-pleasing and how to combat that; - Learning how to ask for what you want emotionally and sexually; - Human anatomy education and understanding of arousal and how arousal affects sexual pleasure; - Discovering new sexual techniques; - Masturbation coaching.

When and where are sessions held?

Intimacy and Relationship Coaching are available by phone, Skype or any other media platform anywhere around the world. Bodywork sessions are availalbe in Magill or Gawler (Adelaide, South Australia). If you require a session outide of allocated times, please contact us and we'll book you in personally at the time that suits both the client and the practitioner.

Who can attend workshops or events?

Events are for anyone interested in learning more about themselves and improving the quality of their relationships – personal or professional, with partners, lovers, friends, parents, children or colleagues.

No prior experience necessary.

All shades on the gender and sexuality spectrums are welcome unless otherwise specified.

You are welcome to book on your own, or with one or more friends or partners. If you book with partners/friends, you may choose to participate in exercises mainly or solely with them if you prefer. However, there will be an invitation to work with different members of the group at different times for the sake of practice and learning.

We ensure the highest degree of safety, clarity, and integrity for all participants. There is neither nudity, or explicit sexual touching and workshop rules will apply.

You're welcome to attend events multiple times (50% discount code given on request *) as there are always new levels of awareness to be found, learned and enjoyed.

Do I have to touch people?

No, you do not have to do anything you don't want to do, or don't feel entirely comfortable with – EVER! However, for those open to it, some offerings include touch practices (non-sexual) as part of the process. Everyone has the choice whether to participate at any time, and you may jump in, and out, whenever you want to. While you're my presence I never, and will never be, about push.

* Discounts not available on all events

Do you have a code of ethics?

Code of Ethics of the Somatic S*x Educators’ Association of Australasia (SSEAA) Professional members of the SSEAA agree that: * The practitioner’s chief focus and primary ethical responsibility is for the clients’ wellbeing. * The practitioner works to establish a relationship which the client experiences as safe, consensual and fully engaged. * The practitioner works to support the client into their experience of embodiment. When consensual touch is included, it is for the purposes of the client’s learning & growth. * The practitioner commits to their own personal growth, professional development and ongoing self-care. * The practitioner is aware of the potential for attraction within the client-practitioner relationship and ensures the focus is on the clients’ growth & learning. * The practitioner practises in a way that is free of narcissistic gratifications such as gratifications of authority, power, sensual pleasure and admiration. * During the session the practitioner is fully and consistently at the service of the client’s personal growth. Members working as Certified Sexological Bodyworkers also agree to the Code of Professional Conduct for Certified Sexological Bodyworkers.

What happens in a Yoni (Vulva/Vagina) Bodywork Session?

' Yoni' is the Sanskrit word for vagina, meaning 'sacred space'. So the vagina is undoubtedly a sacred and powerful space, and it is where we bleed, we birth, we please and be pleasured, and it represents how grounded we are. Many women are disconnected, and we don't love, admire or appreciate the energy of our vaginas. It is rare for a woman to be penetrated when they're truly ready. Women are pressured to feel that pleasure and arousal should happen instantly and ready to get their groove on with a moment's notice. Bodywork Private Session allows you to explore your Yoni's potential. To investigate what is possible so that you can come to a place of wholeness, love, respect and honouring for yourself – getting to know yourself as a fully expressed woman and your genital is the gateway to experiencing pleasure on a deeper level. Bodywork is an educational and holistic modality that embraces all aspects of the self: physical, emotional, mental, spiritual and sexual. This work quite specific; however, there's nothing we are trying to change or fix, no goals, no plan, and no pushing or forcing. Yoni Mapping sessions are about being present with whatever is arising, without judging or labelling as something that worked or didn't work. We're just exploring and discovering about your unique body and pelvic space. This service is a beautiful experience for women who have had natural births, confused or lost and disconnected from pleasure.

What happens in a Ejaculation Training Session?

There are many reasons as a sexual man; your confidence gets knocked. You can struggle with what you want your body to do sexually. Still, you feel that you can't regulate it. This can lead to unfulfilling sexual relationships, extra pressure, unwanted fear, building resentment and incurring sexual ordeal, even within a loving partnership. We can investigate Ejaculation Training: - Learn techniques to regulate your arousal; - Letting go of the deeply held stories and messages of your body; - Acceptance of who you are and where you are as being perfect for you at this time and place; - Expressing yourself authentically and discovering who you are as an erotic being; Using communication, breath, movement and touch, we can start to unravel the stories of the body, finding the joy and pleasure that is our natural state. Choosing conscious sexuality means learning how to connect and regulate your body, sensation, pleasure and arousal. Gain more confidence with understanding more about your body.